
Release Date:- 2004-03-02
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Perfect for expecting parents who want to prepare themselves for the challenging toddler years (which starts around eight months of age), this essential guide, a national bestseller by respected pediatrician and child development expert Dr. Harvey Karp, not only helps reduce tantrums but makes happy kids even happier by boosting patience, cooperation, and self-confidence.
Toddlers can drive you bonkersā¦so adorable and fun one minuteā¦so stubborn and demanding the next! Yet, as unbelievable as it sounds, there is a way to turn the daily stream of ānosā and ādonātsā into āyesesā and hugsā¦if you know how to speak your toddlerā s language. In one of the most useful advances in parenting techniques of the past twenty-five years, Dr. Karp reveals that toddlers, with their immature brains and stormy outbursts, should be thought of not as pint-size people but as pintsizeā¦cavemen.
Having noticed that the usual techniques often failed to calm crying toddlers, Dr. Karp discovered that the key to effective communication was to speak to them in their own primitive language. When he did, suddenly he was able to soothe their outbursts almost every time! This amazing success led him to the realization that children between the ages of one and four go through four stages of āevolutionaryā growth, each linked to the development of the brain, and each echoing a step in prehistoric humankindās journey to civilization:
ā¢ The āCharming Chimp-Childā (12 to 18 months): Wobbles around on two legs, grabs everything in reach, plays a nonstop game of āmonkey see monkey do.ā
ā¢ The āKnee-High Neanderthalā (18 to 24 months): Strong-willed, fun-loving, messy, with a vocabulary of about thirty words, the favorites being ānoā and āmine.ā
ā¢ The āClever Cavemanā (24 to 36 months):
Just beginning to learn how to share, make friends, take turns, and use the potty.
ā¢ The āVersatile Villagerā (36 to 48 months): Loves to tell stories, sing songs and dance, while trying hard to behave.
To speak to these children, Dr. Karp has developed two extraordinarily effective techniques:
1) The āfast foodā ruleārestating what your child has said to make sure you got it right;
2) The four-step ruleāusing gesture, repetition, simplicity, and tone to help your
irate Stone-Ager be happy again.
Once youāve mastered ātoddler-ese,ā you will be ready to apply behavioral techniques specific to each stage of your childā s development, such as teaching patience and calm, doing time-outs (and time-ins), praise through āgossiping,ā and many other strategies. Then all the major challenges of the toddler yearsāincluding separation anxiety, sibling rivalry, toilet training, night fears, sleep problems, picky eating, biting and hitting, medicine taking ā can be handled in a way that will make your toddler feel understood. The result: fewer tantrums, less yelling, and, best of all, more happy, loving time for you and your child.